My secret talent:
I am a patient person. More of a tortoise than a hare. A tortoise is determined and persistent and has time to live the journey, to love the journey as much as arrival. That’s me. But this tortoise also secretly knows the joy of roller blades.
What’s it like to be in a room with me?
The Zen master Ikkyu was once asked to write a distillation of the highest wisdom. He wrote only one word: Attention. The person who asked the question was displeased, ‘Is that all?’ So Ikkyu obliged him. Two words now: Attention. Attention. (Jenny Offill – The Department of Speculation)
I try to create and maintain a space for couples that encourages Attention: above all Attention to safety so that which cannot normally be felt, thought, said or done within the couple relationships can begin to be felt, thought, said and done.
My couples clients have found me to be warm, good humoured, non-judgemental, open to diversity and perceptive — an experienced third party bringing assuring calm and perspective to the task of identifying their issues and helping them to address their relationship challenges effectively.
What’s my non-negotiable when it comes to taking care of my own mental health?
Different things work for different people. What might work for one person may seem really inconsequential to another. The top three on my checklist of self-care for my mental health are: connecting with friends and family (including my dog), reading good books, and time spent appreciating nature. (I also enjoy a bracing cup of tea.)
My life motto:
“It is okay not to be feeling okay”, and,
“Healing is possible when love and care are in the mix.”